Is There A Limit to Inclusion?

This will probably come out of nowhere for some of you but another conversation about a startup sorority led to a discussion about one of their membership requirements.

• Must be a natural born heterosexual woman who is 18 years or older.

Now some of you may remember that I'm in a sorority myself and that's partly why this particular requirement stuck out for me.  My sorority doesn't require that you be heterosexual or even 18 really because we know some smart cookies get to college early and can join as long as they have the other requirements in place.  However, the natural born woman piece hit a lot of chords in the conversation we were having.  One because of the number of homosexual men who have decided they want to be members of my or other sororities and have threatened to sue for that right under anti-discrimination laws.  Not really worried about men getting the right to join a sorority but there's another group that has a different standing and potentially a legal in that gay men do not.

Those that identify as transgendered, ie a woman in a man's body or conversely a man in a woman's body.  Neither of those groups could join the organizations for the gendered groups they identify with without there being some Herculean efforts or surgery so that at their time of application it was assumed they were for all intents and purpose the correct gender.  Can't say it hasn't happened already or that it won't happen in the future but without the surgery they have shakier claims than if they just pursued groups that were available to their gender of birth.  In the states where it matters gender identity is a protected class so if they join and then say I'm trans they couldn't be kicked out.  They may be pushed out socially but cannot be kicked out.

Just a Quickie: Post Relaxer Update

So I have been super lazy since coming from the beauty salon.  Until this morning I didn't moisturize or seal anything at all I just put on my satin cap and went to sleep.  Thankfully there wasn't much in the way of tangles cause I can sleep kinda wild sometimes.  If I wasn't leaving the house yesterday I wouldn't have even combed it till today and that was just to make sure I had the part where I wanted it to be.  I tied down my edges after I moisturized with my Elasta QP Olive Oil and Mango Butter and then sealed with Organix Macadamia Dry styling oil.  Back under the satin cap for now just to keep my ends off my shirt.  I'll take a photo of my edges at some point in the next few days to show you what it looks like relaxed.  And that's the other area, of course, that is full of gray since it was all new growth.

How goes your stretching and/or relaxer/texlaxer days ladies?

Relaxer Day & Yummy Goodness

Yesterday was a good day for the most part.  I went to sleep at a reasonable hour, woke up at one as well and then watched both my Serbian tennis boo and my French tennis side piece lose their semifinal matches at the French Open so I can't watch them play on Sunday and be conflicted.  Instead I get to root against Rafael Nadal and that God awful digging in his crack he perpetually does as he faces David Ferrer (not to be confused with Roger Federer--those last names used to trip me up).  I really hope Ferrer wins cause as I'm sure you picked up on I don't really like Rafa, he bugs the piss out of me.  I'm trying to stay up for the Serena and Maria match but I went to sleep not too long after I ate dinner--I know bad--woke up for a hot second and then went back to sleep only to wake up around 2AM.  The match doesn't start till 8 AM  and while I'm wide awake now there's no promise of that continuing.  Anyhoo let me stop rambling and get to the heart of this post.

Approaching 2 Year Hair Anniversary

I just realized this weekend as I was prepping to wash my hair that next month I will have been on my hair journey for the last two years.  While I still have some areas that need improvement, my hair has grown a lot and is MUCH thicker overall than it used to be.  It feels like the ends are getting a little thin but that could be because I'm not doing the best job finding protective styles.  I hope to get a relaxer on Friday or Saturday and see how much hair is retained because I'm probably in need of a trim.  I did take photos today though, surprise lol.  My edges look much better and I have a composite shot of what has happened since they broke off in March.  And I took a few shots of my new growth even though the gray hair seems to be obscuring the wave pattern.  I did prepoo but today I wasn't feeling a post wash conditioner so I skipped that.  Shed more hair in the shower than I would like but not too much during the detangling and NO matting this week so I don't have to go back through it tomorrow comb through again and reach for any knots.  There were no knots this week really at all so that's a win.  Just gotta get in and let the creamy crack do it's job again.  After this relaxer I'll be able to see where I'm really at growth wise and be able to set better goals for the next year of my hair journey.  And what I want to do with the hair color situation.  Anyway here ya go.  Photos.

 Hair loss from detangling

Edges Update

New Growth, just look bushy to me

French Open Baby

No I'm not having children and honestly nothing much is going on here because it's storming yet again.  I'm VERY glad that my area has not been hit by the tornadoes but over the last three weeks or so I've been on edge every time we have prolonged storms that a clap of REALLY long thunder is really the wind build up from a tornado.  My grass looks a mess but so does everyone else on the block.  Prolonged rains plus not a lot of drying out time in between means healthy green quick growing lawns.  Ahh well.

It's time for another major in the tennis world and I'm so excited.  This is the only time the insomnia works in my favor cause I'm up in time to see a lot of the matches live.  Two people I don't like are playing and unfortunately one looks like she may win her match.  I have no real justification to dislike Sloane Stephens OR Victoria Azarenka other than they are kind of annoying to me.  Decent players, quickly beloved by the tennis world because they are so friendly and so outgoing but are just meh to me.  Granted it's neither one of their faults entirely.  Tennis banks on media darlings and leaves the old more reserved players in the background because they will win regardless and there's nothing to build around on them.  Even though they will milk a potential story with them too.  I'm very solidly Team Serena so I hope she wins even though she's done better than she did last year already so provided that Maria Sharapova goes out before she does Serena should still be number 1 in the world regardless of the win here based on WTA's yearly points thing.  I have to come to respect Sharapova just like Kobe Bryant.  Neither will ever be my favorite humans but they are good hustlers and have a real drive to win.

In my best Charlie Brown voice AAUGH!! or why I heart my hairdresser

So today has been busy, well my today as I haven't been to sleep yet.  My teaching schedule is locked for the next year.  I have an idea of what I'll be doing for the summer (meaning yeah money) and I have a committee appointment.  It was a busy few hours lol.  And after watching the Heat lose game four (go Pacers) and dealing with Mrs Shops a Lot I sent a text to my hair dresser about my nifty plan to dye my hair gray cause you know my plans are always air tight and stuff.  Turns out yeah not so much lol.  We would have to completely bleach my hair first and then dye and it and that would likely result in some serious breakage.  I told her that sucked and she laughed at me.  At least she didn't say sure dummy let's see how much of your hair is left once we're done and do it anyway.  Soo AAUGH!! to my dramatic gray hair plans but have to love someone who is good at taking care of me and all my silly ideas.  I am so going to miss her I swear.  I'll have to email her after I get settled and decide on a new hair dresser which I am totally not looking forward to.  I really don't mind the gray I just mind how quickly it grows out when I add any color to it.  I was actually looking forward to the gray and black look.  Oh well.  Off to make new strange plans.

Results, Updates and Oddly Tittilated

So if you live in the States and are like most folks you had Monday off.  There was no mail--ie no bills--and no banking and plenty of eating and sports if that's what you were going for your day.  Things started off relatively well.  I woke up, milled around, ate a little bit had an annoying argument with my mother and then spent about 20 minutes on the phone with AT&T to make sure we weren't in danger of running over minutes because Madame Talks A Lot keeps adding new numbers to her QVC/HSN, General Hospital and Y&R recap sessions to her day.  This wouldn't be a big deal unless you know my mother in that she will have the same hour long conversation with two or three different people EVERY weekday.  I was smart enough to add A list (no longer available which is why I'm never changing this cell plan unless we move to a carrier with a similar option) to the plan a few years ago because before that mom was not only using up our allotted minutes but several thousand nights and weekends, mobile to mobile and cutting hard into the rollover minutes.  After assuring myself that adding to the list would likely address the issue at hand I went back to sleep cause insomnia has revisited my life.

Radio Free Pecan Pie

Sorry for the radio silence everyone.  I have a very annoying skin condition that flares up randomly and can be incredibly painful.  Well I got a new one in a new location for me and it impacted my ability to finish my wash day and write back to you without wincing and dropping multiple f bombs.  I tried another tactic today and at least I'm able to right.  I had to rewash my hair and after taping up the offending area and applying some cortisone to the area I spent 90--yes that's right 90--minutes detangling my hair mostly dealing with annoying knots that came about from not having finished the wash day several days back.  All I did tonight was detangle, twist and put each section on a flexi-rod as I was able to move through them.  I will revisit them again tomorrow with another layer of conditioner and seal it up properly.  Between the lingering pain in my arm, the temperature in the house and the effort of moving through my hair I was literally sweating when I was done.  However, as I was moving through all of my hair I noticed that the multicolored was worse than I thought.  Especially if you lift up a section here or there and then you get this massive shock of gray.  Ahh freaking hair.  I think the poll expires sometime tomorrow (technically later today) and right now ombre is winning.  If you would like to get in on the voting here's your last opportunity.  Click HERE RIGHT HERE to look at the photos of the hair color options I've included in the poll.  Sorry no photos today, I was dumbfounded by the knots and hair loss.